You and me: partner relationship during pregnancy

Becoming pregnant unplanned, and even if it is planned, can be a great challenge in any relationship. Feelings of both joy and excitement are matched by fear of your unknown circumstances as well as possible questions about if you'll make good parents, if you will have the ability to deal with this life change, or you may possibly wonder if both you and your spouse will wish to be together forever as you raise this new life which was created by you. Joy and excitement are matched by fear of the unknown and possible worries about whether or not you'll make good parents, can afford this life change, or even that will both want to be together forever as a commitment to this new life. These feelings can certainly be totally understandable. For a female these feelings are often even further intensified by the rollercoaster ride some women have along with their hormones when they are pregnant. Until the baby arrives, the man may well feel there's not much for him to take care of, however he may want to consider the following tips.

What every partner ought to know during pregnancy

Honesty is very important in the relationship, it seems like a cliché, however you could be amazed how easy it really is to hold in the ways in which you are feeling, and hold back fears from your partner. 'Silly' worries may occupy your brain but seem not meet the minimum concern requirements to voice them. Often they then swiftly become big worries, usually by then you have already bounced them around in discussion together with your partner. If this seems hard to do, to be honest about small things with your partner, maybe discussing every one of them with a friend before you decide to talk to your spouse will be helpful. If this seems hard, maybe sound them out with a friend (or here on ThinkBaby's forums) before you talk to him or her. You might find this makes it easier to put what you feel into words before you have your big conversation, and hopefully airing the issues will make you realise they are worth sharing with your partner, too.

You might just realize that this makes it simpler to put the things you are feeling into words well before you know your big conversation is going to happen with your partner. Hopefully by airing the difficulties, it is going to make you realise they're actually worth the effort of sharing them with someone that you really love. Before starting to experiment with trying for a baby, or as soon as you both sit together to discuss and realise that it's real, make sure that you go over pros and cons. Don't be fatalistic in that that you are going to get depressed, sick or something else negative during the pregnancy time, but discuss possibilities of what may happen and exactly how you might overcome these together. Doing this before any real issues arise may actually help to put troubles into perspective in the event that they do occur. Also, try to find good role models among your network of friends. Maybe someone in the workplace who seems relatively sane and is having their fourth child! Maybe a role model could be your parents, and aunt and uncle, or another guy a generation older than you.

Find out how every one of them made things work, and be realistic that life isn't always straightforward, but that challenges will help to make life all the more interesting! Cut yourself some slack, women who are pregnant can be more aware in terms of the changes with their hormones and their bodies. Don't feel that this is something that is a bad thing, it's actually just a sign that your body is adjusting to the amazing being growing inside you. Find home remedies that are helpful to you, use massages to relax, and take light exercises that you enjoy, eat good food and take some moments from every day to nurture yourself and kick-back and relax.

Changes in your emotional state – for either of you – are rarely permanent. You are both going to get through these nine months and there is an end in sight!

Once the baby arrives there will be new challenges, but if you are both honest with the fact that being a parent is a wonderful but serious deal, you can really begin to relax and enjoy it.