Childbirth is the source of both physical and emotional changes for the new mother and can affect her sexuality.
Some women have little or no interest in sex after childbirth, while others resume intercourse quickly. Some men feel the same and temporarily lose their ability to maintain an erection. After several months, if one of you still feels reluctant to resume your sexual relationship, ask for help. Your doctor may not automatically discuss the issue, so if you need advice, don’t hesitate to ask.
Doctors’ guidelines will vary from permitting sex as soon as it is physically comfortable to resuming intercourse following the six week checkup. Some couples may prefer to wait until the bleeding has stopped after delivery and your doctor may suggest this as well. This can vary from two to six weeks after delivery.
Physical and Emotional Changes Following Pregnancy
Episiotomy –incision (cut) made during labour to enlarge vaginal opening; incision is closed with stitches after birth of baby.An Episiotomy may cause discomfort; A woman may feel uneasy about resuming sex; The usual healing time lasts 2-3 weeks; The area may remain sensitive to stretching or pressure for many weeks.
What You Can Do
1. Use sitz baths to increase comfort.
2. Use alternate sexual activities,
3. Avoid penetration until incision is completely healed.
4. Vary positions during intercourse to put less pressure on the incision.
Hormonal Changes
Vaginal dryness may lead to painful intercourse (usually improves within 8-12 weeks after delivery). Breastfeeding mothers may experience this dryness for a longer period of time.Some women may have no sexual desire at all for several months following the baby’s birth.Sexual arousal after delivery may take longer.Emotional changes may continue for weeks, possibly months and may decrease sexual interest.
What You Can Do
1. Use a lubricant such as spermicidal cream or jelly or K-Y jelly to increase ease of intercourse.
2. Include a longer period of foreplay before penetration.
3. Consult you doctor about prescribing estrogen cream, applied to the vagina, for short-term use. This may not be recommended for nursing mothers.
Breasts Nipple tenderness and decreased breast sensation occur in some breastfeeding mothers. Touches that were previously stimulating may be irritating or have no effect.Bottle feeding mothers may experience the same for shorter periods of time. Sexual arousal may cause milk to leak from breasts. This will settle once nursing is well established. (approximately 3-4 months)
What You Can Do
Stimulate breasts only as comfortable. Breast milk will not be affected.
Decreased Vaginal Muscle Tone
Doctors’ guidelines will vary from permitting sex as soon as it is physically comfortable to resuming intercourse following the six week checkup. Some couples may prefer to wait until the bleeding has stopped after delivery and your doctor may suggest this as well. This can vary from two to six weeks after delivery.
Physical and Emotional Changes Following Pregnancy
Episiotomy –incision (cut) made during labour to enlarge vaginal opening; incision is closed with stitches after birth of baby.An Episiotomy may cause discomfort; A woman may feel uneasy about resuming sex; The usual healing time lasts 2-3 weeks; The area may remain sensitive to stretching or pressure for many weeks.
What You Can Do
1. Use sitz baths to increase comfort.
2. Use alternate sexual activities,
3. Avoid penetration until incision is completely healed.
4. Vary positions during intercourse to put less pressure on the incision.
Hormonal Changes
Vaginal dryness may lead to painful intercourse (usually improves within 8-12 weeks after delivery). Breastfeeding mothers may experience this dryness for a longer period of time.Some women may have no sexual desire at all for several months following the baby’s birth.Sexual arousal after delivery may take longer.Emotional changes may continue for weeks, possibly months and may decrease sexual interest.
What You Can Do
1. Use a lubricant such as spermicidal cream or jelly or K-Y jelly to increase ease of intercourse.
2. Include a longer period of foreplay before penetration.
3. Consult you doctor about prescribing estrogen cream, applied to the vagina, for short-term use. This may not be recommended for nursing mothers.
Breasts Nipple tenderness and decreased breast sensation occur in some breastfeeding mothers. Touches that were previously stimulating may be irritating or have no effect.Bottle feeding mothers may experience the same for shorter periods of time. Sexual arousal may cause milk to leak from breasts. This will settle once nursing is well established. (approximately 3-4 months)
What You Can Do
Stimulate breasts only as comfortable. Breast milk will not be affected.
Decreased Vaginal Muscle Tone
The vagina may feel less tight during intercourse.
What You Can Do
Tighten the muscles used to stop the flow of urine and hold for a count of 5. This helps you to landmark the muscles you wish to tighten. Once you know which muscles you want to exercise, practice tightening them several times a day when you are not going to the bathroom. Do a set of five exercises at each session so your muscles do not tire easily.
Emotional Changes and Fatigue
What You Can Do
Tighten the muscles used to stop the flow of urine and hold for a count of 5. This helps you to landmark the muscles you wish to tighten. Once you know which muscles you want to exercise, practice tightening them several times a day when you are not going to the bathroom. Do a set of five exercises at each session so your muscles do not tire easily.
Emotional Changes and Fatigue
Demands of parenting and family adjustments may decrease sexual interest.The physical contact in the care and handling of a baby may decrease interest in other physical contact. Breastfeeding mothers, especially, may feel touched out.Mothers may feel frightened, wondering if they have given up sexuality to motherhood.Interrupted sleep and caring for a new baby can be exhausting.Some new mothers feel sexually undesirable due to visible after effects such as stretch marks, remaining weight, episiotomy or scar from Caesarian section.
What You Can Do
1. Discuss feelings honestly and openly with partner before the baby arrives and afterwards when problems develop; this helps prevent problems in the relationship.
2. Plan couple time as soon as possible after birth of baby, to enjoy each other.
3. Rest often throughout the day. Getting enough rest helps mothers cope with changes and interrupted sleep during the night.
Birth Control Needs
Fertility can return immediately after delivery. If a woman is bottle feeding, her menstrual period will likely begin about six weeks after delivery. Ovulation (the fertile time) almost always occurs before this period so a birth control method must be used anytime after delivery.
If a woman is breastfeeding, ovulation and the return of menstruation is less predictable. Many factors will influence this, but breastfeeding is not a method of birth control and there is always a risk of pregnancy.
What You Can Do
1. Discuss feelings honestly and openly with partner before the baby arrives and afterwards when problems develop; this helps prevent problems in the relationship.
2. Plan couple time as soon as possible after birth of baby, to enjoy each other.
3. Rest often throughout the day. Getting enough rest helps mothers cope with changes and interrupted sleep during the night.
Birth Control Needs
Fertility can return immediately after delivery. If a woman is bottle feeding, her menstrual period will likely begin about six weeks after delivery. Ovulation (the fertile time) almost always occurs before this period so a birth control method must be used anytime after delivery.
If a woman is breastfeeding, ovulation and the return of menstruation is less predictable. Many factors will influence this, but breastfeeding is not a method of birth control and there is always a risk of pregnancy.
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