How do we cope with colic

Taking care of a newborn, especially your first, is a challenge for any parent. If your baby is colicky, it can be overwhelming.

 

You're probably worried for your baby and frustrated because you can't help her. To top it all, the crying starts at the time of day when you're feeling most exhausted fromlack of sleep. This was probably not your vision of being a parent!

 

Persistent cryingisn't necessarily a sign that your baby is in pain. If your baby has other symptoms, such as afever,vomitingordiarrhoea, it's best to take her to thedoctor. But, in most cases of problem crying, the doctor will find that there is no underlying cause.

 

When your baby is having a bout of persistent crying, take a deep breath and carry on with the basics. Feed her on demand, wind her and change her nappy when she needs it. Try thesoothing techniquesthat usually work well for her.

 

However, bear in mind that your tried-and-trusted techniques may not work every time. Colic means that, even though your baby is healthy, your life is going to be pretty tough for the next few weeks. Dealing with colic isstressfuland parents often feel depressed, helpless and even angry. The last thing you want to do is to direct that anger at your baby.

 

If you feel tension and anger mount, put your baby down for a while so that you can calm yourself. If you are at home alone with your baby, set a time limit before returning to her. If you need to, set the kitchen timer for about five minutes, so you know how long it's been.

Taking a break, even if it is just a few minutes, will help you both. You could:

• take your baby for a walkso both of you can get some fresh air
• ask your partner, a neighbour or friend to babysit for a short while
• phone a close relative or friend to talk about what you're going through
• ask someone you trust to take care of your baby while you have a bath or lie down in a quiet room
• listen to arelaxation podcast
• use your games console to dance or exercise

When your baby is calmer:

• Have a rest, or some "me time", while your baby is sleeping.
• Enjoy your baby. Make a note of the good times.
• Talk to your partner about how you're both coping and what you can do.
• Try tomeet other parentswith babies of a similar age. Your local children's centre or clinic is a good place to start.
• Talk to yourhealth visitorordoctor. They are there to support you.

You could also contact the charityCry-sison 08451 228 669. You'll be put through to a parent who has been in the same situation as you.